These days we seem to be confronted with mounting social pressures. With the media, social media and society telling us how to look, feel and act, it’s only natural that a lot of us have self-esteem issues. Together with the stresses that come with high school, work, sexuality, relationships and sex, you can get yourself into a real mess.
Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted and thought well of by others. But also about how much we value, love and accept ourselves.
Throughout our lives we all may experience problems with self-esteem. Our teen years are often the worst with raging hormones running rampant through our developing bodies, all the while we’re trying to figure out who we are and where we fit into this wild and wacky world.
Fear not, though, there is good news! Everyone’s self-image changes over time, meaning self-esteem is not fixed for life. So for those of you who think that your self-esteem isn’t all that it could be, can improve on it. Cool, eh?
How self-esteem can affect someone:
Generally speaking, if you have a good self-esteem, you like yourself and believe that you are as OK as other people. Conversely, for those who have a low self-esteem, it commonly means that you feel that
you are not OK and that other people are better than you are. People with a low self-esteem tend to focus and look at what they see as wrong about themselves as if through a magnifying glass. But in doing so ignore their strengths and achievements.
To put it simply, self-esteem affects how you feel and relate to others, deal with challenges that are presented to you and how safe and relaxed you may feel in your daily life. If you have low self-esteem, or if you’re constantly putting yourself down, you are more likely to feel depressed, anxious or miserable.
Tips for building up self-esteem:
- • Communicate effectively with others. This could include looking directly at people as you are speaking to them and talking with an assertive tone, rather than looking at your shoes and mumbling the whole time.
- • Dream! Think about the things you want out of life. Set goals. Start small and work your way up. But don’t ‘bite off more than you can chew’ – because you could potentially set yourself up for disappointment by taking on too much.
- • Accept compliments when people give them to you. Don’t be awkward about it! Embrace it! If you’re never sure what to say in response, a simple ‘thank you’ will always suffice. Doing this gets easier the more you practice, so start trying!
- • Be true to yourself. It’s not possible to make everyone happy or meet everyone’s standards and expectations about how you should be. And let’s be real here, who’s more important than yourself? Learn what makes you happy, and you alone.
- • And finally, be kind to yourself! You will go so much further if you are, and who doesn’t enjoy a little self-loving every once in a while?
It’s always the little steps that count towards reaching a final solution. Changes won’t happen overnight, but if you work on it, these few little steps can bring you a happier and healthier self-esteem. Because everyone deserves to feel good about themselves.
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